Unique... not only 'singled out'!

How different it is to understand people singling one out because one is unique. If we pay attention, the collective will only attack whoever shows distancing form a norm. If we desperately want to fit in, we think that being away from the norm is "bad," but if we do not care about fitting in, and instead we focus on our unique nature, then being singled out is a compliment. We can take it as a compliment, of 'how unique I am' instead.